A Little Mix Of Both

From 2007

I have been looking over other blogs on this site and came across one that caught my eye. It’s called "P on a Pedestal" by realninth. The title refers to a quote from the movie The 40 Year Old Virgin. (Great movie by the way) Anyway, after reading a few of the posts, I kind of got the idea of the topic being about how nice guys finish last. Also it’s about how women are so hard to figure out. I decided I would give a quick course in how I think the game should be played and maybe help our friend in need. (Us males got to stick together you know) So here we go.

Most guys notice this overtime dating women that they always seem to go for the assholes. You see some nice girl and she is always with this prick who thinks he is the shit, and treats her like ass. Silly thing is, she sticks with him and is heads over heals for him. Sounds stupid doesn't it? Well there are two reasons I have found for this.

First one is what I call the Barbie doll syndrome. (I just made that up, but follow me) Since girls were young, they played dress up, acted like a princess, and also accessorized their dolls such as Barbie. This game trickles into their adult relationships. Women have a need to control and change things, hence even their men. Now these assholes are set in their ways and that poses the challenge to these women who usually get their way and can change things at will. The intrigue of trying to change this asshole, and the faith that they can, keep them in these relationships longer then they should be.

Second is the need for the Daddy complex. Most girls were daddy's little girls. They need that stern, authority figure in their lives to feel balanced and show them the way of right and wrong decisions. The asshole gives this to them because he is demanding and often tells them what to do and what not. Sounds stupid, but it’s true. How many times you see these girls follow these total piece of shit dudes around like puppy dogs, while you sit there single wondering what the fuck. Well this is the answer.

Now back to our friend whose blog sparked this post. I am not telling you to be an asshole, not at all. See, eventually (could be years) these girls will wake up and realize this guy will never change and see him for the true asshole he is. Then the doomed relationship will come to an end after much time and much heartache. The girl will say that she cannot believe she put up with him that long, and all she is looking for is a good guy who will treat her well. She will say she needs that prince charming to sweep her off her feet. Well this is kind of a fabrication also and let’s see why.

Some girls do pick a nice guy every once in a blue moon. One that writes her poems, buys her flowers, and does anything she wants. She wants to go shoe shopping, and he is there holding the boxes for 8 hour straight just because he loves to be near her. Sounds sad doesn't it? You know why? Because as a male myself, it kind of is!

Anyway, as time goes by just like in the other relationship, the girl will not realize she has the wrong guy, but she will become bored. A guy that kisses her ass and does everything she wants, where is the challenge in that? She is getting the dress up Barbie syndrome need taken care of, but not the daddy complex side of it. As with the asshole, she was getting the daddy complex and not the Barbie Syndrome. (Are you following me? If not, stay the course and you will get the point at the end.) She then either cheats, or moves on to a more bad boy type or asshole as we have said before, and around and round we go. (They usually date the bad boy first, because of the rebellious teen years, but it’s all a vicious cycle)

So after 15 years of dating, many relationships, booty calls, and whatever is the fact that you need a little mix of both. That is the ultimate secret to figuring out how to get or keep a woman. You have to have that sweet and romantic side, and be willing to sacrifice some things to give her what she wants. This will fulfill her Barbie Syndrome and you are half way there. Now you cannot be like this all the time. You have to be the kind of guy who stands his ground and puts his foot down when necessary and let her know you are not taking any shit. You got to let her know, even though you love her, you can stand on your own and will be fine without her. You need to make it where most of the time she looks to you for the big decision making in the relationship, thus fulfilling her daddy complex and having somewhat of an authority(Daddy-like) figure in her life.

Now I know some girls are going to read this and totally rip me a new one and tell you this is all bullshit. I want you girls, plus our friend realninth and other guys like him, to step back and really analyze relationships from afar and look for what I have pointed out. It is an undeniable truth that cannot be hidden. The girls will argue because of their pride, but look at their exes and failed relationships and see I am right on the money. This is the game and how it goes, and through my experience, my theory has proved that time and time again.

So give her the two worlds she needs to function. Satisfy her Barbie syndrome and her daddy complex and live happily ever after. As far as the “P on the Pedestal" reference, pussy is awesome, but it’s not worth putting up with a bunch of shit from a heartless bitch. Look for that good girl that respects you for you, and believes in you, and supports your dreams and wishes. The rest of these hood rats are not worth the time of day, no matter how good some of them look. Most of them are shallow bitches with no pulse and no intelligence anyway. Trust me as you move forward and you will find my wisdom to be correct. I wish you luck on your journey!